STAYING HAPPY IN RELATIONSHIPS

STAYING HAPPY IN RELATIONSHIPS

Loving is not easy and neither is love easy to come by. At times when we do find love, we may end up playing with it thus throwing it into the dykes. Have you ever wondered how the people we hurt feel or cope with the eventual feelings that result? It is a good feeling yes to be love and to love in return, but what happens when love becomes sour does not even compare to the later taste. It is worst.

So, is it wrong to be deeply in love with someone?

Help me think here. In my perspective, it’s very dangerous to love someone too much in this era especially due to the dynamics that have occured since the end of the 19th century. I have been busy lately trying to fix my future but there are things you cannot really run away from. Extreme introvertion sometimes is a social suicide. Being confined within your own walls only train you to love yourself, providing yourself too much attention. When such individuals find an alternatives to direct there learned extreme care and love which they once held for themselves, young lady or man you dont want to mess with these people whichever the case.

 It’s marveling how much we need to do to be certain of a fulfilling future career. Itsn't easy, so generally nothing is easy. Getting too close can make you lose focus and it all starts when you lose that focus. It is my hope you don't judge me from this blog. I am no saint and very well know that I am very prone to those same mistakes even if I haven’t really been into a "serious and long-lasting" relationship with the opposite sex before. And within this time of my pursuit of this certain lady’s heart, I know that I’ve committed this mistake. I lost my focus.
I paused my life for her waiting and hoping that she get on my ship so we could sail together in this love voyage I turned from being myself to keeping her impressed while forgetting myself and somehow deep down i knew, I won’t get away with it. My body and soul wanted my attention back. I felt the difference: I wasn’t in the capacity to be myself and do what is for the general good of my welfare much because it wasn't mine anymore. I had become embedded into this new thing and became part of which  i could not function without.

 I did not crave for wisdom as much as I did before neither did I have that certain intensity in capacity building and self-reflection as I had before. I lost my focus on me and focused too much on my pursuit and love for this lady. It gets dangerous.When you focus on the person and love him/her too much then you tend to push your goals, aspirations, friends, family, work, and all of the other things, aside to pursue the new joint ones that get either imposed on you or jointly decided upon.
Too much focus on the other person and loving him/her too much without focus on your dreams anymore will definately cause a sense of lose especiaaly when you are focused type. It will invite worry, possessiveness, insecurity, jealousy, and will ultimately make your relationship a hindrance to your growth. Why? Because you’ve lost focus on the one thing that is in control of your life: aspiration. The tendency is, you will want to be in control when you put the self which provides the motivation to work hard out of the picture or when you shove "It" aside. And being in-control makes you vulnerable to all the things I’ve mentioned earlier (worry, insecurity, jealousy, etc.) You need to step back to have better focus You need to step back to see the whole picture.
 It’s like a picture When you’re too near a picture and you’re too focused, you don’t see the beauty of it. In fact, it becomes blurry when your eyes get too near. It’s the same with a relationship. You can’t get too focused and too near with your man/woman because it doesn’t let you see the beauty of it. 
It only makes things blurry because you can’t see the you anymore. 

 How do we deal with it? 

 Just like getting too near a picture makes your vision blurry, you have to step back to see the beauty of it again. Step back in your relationship. Step back in your focus and love for your man/woman and empower consciousness to take control again. Find it again because you want to not because you feel compelled to find it.. Loosen your relationship to make room for God if at all you are spiritual. It is good to know when to let him in, to help in turning the picture into a masterpiece.